HYPOCRISY

“What we hear is fairly different from what we see

And how we react is actually who are we” –Me

19 march, 2012

We hear a lot of things. We read a lot. We are educated and somewhat know what’s going around us. But, unfortunately, not many of us stop a while to notice that whatever we talk is immensely different from what we do. We are rationalists but we do not practice rationalism in real manner, we are secular and educated on the outside but fail to see the casteism we show. No, we do not support racism at all but in the inside we are racists. We have been taught always to stand up for truth but that’s rarely what we do. Okay, you might not agree, but consider the following-

Most the advertisements we see, claim they make you look fair and lovely. And that’s what sells. No one will consider buying anything with a product with a fat black girl on the cover. Of course all of us want to look fair and lovely, not fat and ugly. I don’t know but I have got a weird feel about it. It pisses me off that how come a so-called-ugly person never get to play a lead role in a movie. Movies and advertisement show a world of our desires, our aspirations and all us desire and aspire to be “fair and lovely” only.

Some days back, I read the matrimonial page with TOI. I never took notice of it before. That page shocked me. Every fucking single marriage advertisement was with the headline “looking for smart, fair, tall blah blah”. No one in the world wants anything less than a fair, beautiful, tall soul-mate. Funnily, soul has nothing to do with all this. Ask yourself that will you be able to love a person not hot (as they say it)? Isn’t that your dream that your prince charming or your dream girl is like 6-foot tall Kareena or Ranbir Kapoor or someone. We all have our this kind of imagination.

Indian marriages are always able to shock me. But the greatest of shocks came to me when recently there was a ‘boy-finding’ thing for someone in my family. I never knew that we still practice only intra-caste marriages. I thought that the world grew up but apparently not. Even the educated family makes a special effort to find a groom in their own caste. That’s more than ridiculous! I have pity for these never-really educated people.

Another incidence. “I dont know what frightens me more, the power that crushes us, or our endless ability to endure it”.

-Gregory David Roberts

I feel strongly about this line. So some days back, I decided to not blend in with a thing at school. I decided to do something about it. Even though 95% of my classmates agreed with me consciously, they never let go of their fear. But I stood up. I think I took some kind of panga with the teachers for it. But it felt unfathomably awesome. Mine is a government school and teachers are always favored. Of course I caught some bad limelight about it and surely enough I got many “B”s and sad project assignments marks( Believe me, I always used to get A’s :P). But whatever it took, the feeling was worth it. The feeling of speaking the truth in the face rather bitch about it in the back. What I’m trying to highlight is that people never stand for truth although that’s what we have been taught. That’s what is the basis of our education.

So, I needed to write this stuff down. I strongly feel that no matter how strong we are on the outside, no matter how rational, secular, equality-loving are we; there is always a part in us that is not. All we need to do is not let that part dominate.J