Why do people marry?

Okay, I always had this great curiosity that why do people marry other people in an arranged marriage. Basically what they do is make a decision to remain in the same house with a person who is not even known to them… maybe some find it an adventure ride with scope of lot many discoveries about their partners, but what would you do if sometimes you don’t like what you find. And hey, its india, divorcing in 1 year is not an option. You are taught bachpan se to believe that its gonna change, you can change behavior of  your partner, give it some “sayyam” i.e patience. Yeah, right, patience. Fuck patience. Kaika patience?  Once I watched that serial with Aamir Khan when he took up the cause of domestic violence. And the most weird thing I thought about it was, more than 90% of domestic violence victim women(even the most educated ones) either thought that “change ho jayega, this will change, my fairy tale will be true some day, if I try to vow him” or thought that “i deserved the beating to some level maybe”. NOOO!!sayyam?  What bullshit. The person who can hit you one day, wouldn’t shy away from putting some kerosene the other day.

Okay that was just some random arrange marriage shit. There are much more things attached to it. Har din ki ladai, har din ka jhagda, har din ke taane. If not physical violence, there is a higher level of mental violence each and every single fucking day in most of the marriages. I have rarely seen a married couple who have celebrated more than 2 anniversaries with happiness. Initially do saal ka naya naya pyaar hota hain, phir har din ki tu-tu main-main.

And marriage, as they do in my family, is weird in itself. Let me tell you about the last two marriages I attended. There was this one marriage of a neighborhood girl. A car was parked inside the marriage hall just side by side of the stage. Since it was weird, I asked my mom about why it was there. She told me that it had been given to the boy’s family by the girl’s. I went like “wtf this is dowry, why don’t they report it to police”. And then she introduced me to a world unknown. She told me that the boy’s family also gives loads of things ranging from jewelry to cosmetics in return. And in order to start a life, they need stuff :P. Alright, my mind exploded then and there. And I went like “Dowry lete dete hain, phir iska pradarshan karte hain” as if they won a gold medal in olympics and now they are displaying. Yeah buddy, I got a swift, what did you get. Me? Innova. But it appeared crystal clear that both ladki wale as well as the ladke wale were happy about everything, even the dowry and things. It shook all my beliefs for a moment there.

So I have also shared my “no-marriage” views with some people(which includes immediate family members) and the only point they constantly made which I could not cut was security. I was told that once you grow old and have no one for yourself, you’ll realize how important it is to marry. If you meet with some accident or something like that, atleast someone is there to take care. And all I have been thinking  since then is- “Is this security reason worth living your live in dismay?” NO SIR, I would rather go for LIC.